“What on earth is wrong with me?”
“And when will it go away? (It will go away… right?”)
You know something is off. You just don’t feel like yourself anymore. It can sneak up on you at random moments and in unexpected ways. The things you used to enjoy, that used to excite you… not so much anymore.
It’s not really about your age or your appearance, though you can go there if you let yourself. There’s something much deeper than that stirring.
If you’re really honest with yourself, you aren’t actually sure who you are anymore, and you don’t really understand why.
It feels crappy. It’s a little scary. And when you don’t understand what’s happening, you might think the solution lies in a prescription, botox, or even an affair.
But the truth is, midlife is supposed to feel crappy, because it is calling you to the soulwork of midlife: healing old wounds, reconnecting to your unique creative essence, and rediscovering who you are and what your life is about. These are in fact the major developmental tasks of midlife, and your midlife misery is your wake-up call.
So what if what most people see as something to avoid at all costs is actually an invitation? Not something to be ignored, endured or medicated away, but an opportunity?
What if it’s a summons from your spirit to create the space necessary heal, to reclaim your true nature and realign with your purpose so you can bring ease and joy back into your life?
The Art of Midlife Renaissance is for the curious, introspective woman who longs for guidance in traversing this uncharted territory of redefining life outside of her habitual roles and identity, and creating a life of harmony, integrity and deep meaning.
It is for women who sense that they are facing new frontiers and are ready to embrace this opportunity to create real change.
The Art of Midlife Renaissance is an holistic and intensive 6-month journey of introspection, deep healing and reclamation, where the confusion, pain and fragmentation of midlife is transmuted into clarity, wholeness and fulfillment.
Crisis or invitation? The choice is yours.
A midlife meltdown is no fun. It often feels like the archetypal “dark night of the soul”.
When it’s happening to you, you may find that you:
- Have lost your enthusiasm, feeling bored and dissatisfied with life
- Are feeling stuck and frustrated, unsure of how to move forward.
- Don’t know where to spend your energy, feeling lost and confused.
- Feel unnerved by a simmering irritability and anger that threatens to blow at any moment.
Many women never slow down long enough to acknowledge what they’re feeling. Others choose to simply persevere and hope it will eventually go away. Some project their discomfort onto external causes and make big life changes, hoping it will “fix it”.
But when midlife women are given the chance to really talk about this, what emerges is that they actually yearn to reconnect to their passion and creativity, and to craft a life of harmony, integrity and self-care – and they are secretly hoping it’s not too late.
I’m not sure I knew I needed a gentle push until I started working with Julie—I only knew that I needed something. I am a musician, a poet and a college professor, and I was trying figure out which part of myself to attend to. All of them were languishing; I was frustrated and scattered. There we so many directions I could move in, but I’d forgotten that. I felt as if there might only be ONE way to go, ONE way to be, and I was afraid I would choose the wrong thing.
Julie gives me the space to say what I need to say, release what I need to release, and come through it knowing that I am wise and deserving of love, that taking up space in this world and in my work is my birthright. I love “getting there”: grounding in a meditation that helps me release the cares of the day and reminds me that this time is completely for me, my feeling, my empowerment and my self-realization.
Because of our work together, I’ve made friends with parts of myself I had long ignored. I recognize when I need time alone, and know how to make that time for myself—even in the middle of a day when everything around me clamors for my attention. Julie helps me remember who I am, helps me to peel away old selves like the dead skin they are, to reveal the pulsing, joyful self beneath. She guides me as I come to greet the part of me who shines.
In the crush of social constructs, women forget we have the right and the ability to say what we know is true. Julie helped me recover my own lost voice. Now, it is stronger than it has ever been.
You forget sometimes as you round the bend that there is still plenty of road before you. Julie helped me remember that. She reminded me that “your eyes are not the only way to see.”
Encountering the “dark night”
It’s not just my training in gerontology and women’s health that brings me to this work.
Around the age of 41 I found myself alternately depressed and raging. I looked everywhere for an explanation – my work, my husband, my children – but couldn’t really figure out a “cause”. Nor could I see any way out of what I was feeling. I would find myself driving down the road wondering if it wouldn’t be easier – and if my loved ones wouldn’t be better off – if I just drifted into oncoming traffic.
I had no idea what was wrong with me.
Luckily for me, a serendipitous encounter with just the right novel was my gateway into realizing what was happening to me was classically perimenopausal, and the beginning of my own journey into the sacred nature of the midlife renaissance. I‘ve spent the ensuing years researching, learning and doing my own midlife soulwork. In fact it’s still an ongoing process, because ‘midlife’ is pretty long phase!
What I discovered in my studies, in my own process, and in supporting other women through this transition, is that the longing to rediscover your passions and vitality, and to connect to what feels true and authentic, is re-calling you to your birthright – which is life of joy, harmony and deep meaning.
At its essence, at midlife you are being asked to pause and dig deep into discerning what you most want from your life.
This isn’t something reserved for only a select few. The developmental journey is universal. The Art of Midlife Renaissance is for you if you’re an introspective woman committed to creating a meaningful life on your own terms, curious about what drives you, courageous enough to do the hard, sometimes scary, work of healing and personal growth, and willing to create the time and space to do it.
This program is the evolution of 30 years of work related to women, aging, women’s health, the menstrual cycle and menopause. My training includes:
- a Master’s degree in developmental psychology with a focus in women’s health
- two decades in primary care as a massage and craniosacral therapist,
- plus a wealth of experience with holistic approaches to healing and well-being, including:
- SoulCollage® Facilitator training
- Women’s Quest Menstruality Apprenticeship
I started working with Julie at a very low period of my life: Our real estate investments were not providing an income, I had to work to pay our bills, and my relationship with my adult daughters was not great. I felt that not only had I not achieved my goals, but I no longer had the time to achieve them because I was in my 50’s.
Having Julie validate that my feelings were there for a reason was very comforting and uplifting. She has a wealth of knowledge to share, and went above and beyond by providing recordings of our sessions and notes on any suggested reading or processes to use on my own. Our Skype sessions were easy and convenient.
My work with her has helped me to quiet my negative mind chatter and to be more positive about my future. It helped me move forward versus getting stuck in “pity party” mode, and now I have resources to use when I need to work through an issue. Best of all, I feel like the big dark cloud is gone.
I would recommend working with Julie to everyone. She has the expertise to help with any issue, big or small. Her warm and caring personality makes you feel safe and secure. She is my forever “go to” person if I need to get an objective perspective on something. She is not only my mentor but my friend.
Before I began working with Julie, I was feeling bored and tired with any type of “talk-therapy” or support group. I was all talked-out! I felt like I had said all there was to say and I was ready to give up on my self-improvement and personal growth path.
Julie has a fresh and creative approach that has helped me move my life forward in a positive direction. My favorite part is doing the SoulCollage® work and also the guided meditations. I like being able to tap into my own intuition with her wise guidance. As a result of our work together I am more able to accept all aspects of myself.
I was able to make a career change AND more importantly, for me, to view my work and career as more fluid and changing. Rather that see myself locked into the perfect career, I am able to see how some jobs are a stepping stone for some clearer work that has not yet revealed itself to me. Before, I was trying to fix the “problems”. Now it’s like I am working with a clearer reflection of myself.
I am getting comfortable with the pieces and parts of my personality that were always there, including those with which I’ve been the least comfortable. This has enabled me to grow at a faster rate than other modes of self-healing because I am looking at the whole me, rather that just pumping up the happy parts!